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Peace, Sherrilene

I was led to this article interviewing the Dalai Lama about the Global Economic Meltdown and had to share:

http://www.businessweek.com/globalbiz/blog/globespotting/archives/2009/05/the_dalai_lama.html

Blessings and peace,

Sherrilene

Moving in with someone who I only knew in a very limited professional capacity.

I learned a lot.

I'm still reeling from this experience but I sense I've grown up quite a bit from it. At this point I cannot identify any losses [of significance; since I am not a materialistic person anyhow], but I sense the gains will be substantial in the long run.

I am your proverbial risk-taker. :)

Have some faith.

And love.

Sherrilene

Usually within. I'm fairly self dependent and don't like the habit of requesting things that I could possibly do for myself.

On the occasions where I feel I don't have the knowledge to take an action, I have a few friends I can go to who will help me.

The best information I get, however, comes through meditation, which takes the form of journalling normally. It not only tells me what but when and who and how. It just takes patience and quiet to get the help I need.

Peace and love to all people.

Sherrilene

I have just returned from a much anticipated visit to North America to introduce hq²’s Quality of Life principles to that location. Apart from the International Association of Facilitators North America Conference in Vancouver, there was also a retreat entitled ‘Employ your Natural Talents’, which took place on Mayne Island, co-facilitated by Ms.Terrill Welch, Executive Leadership Coach [http://www.awomanbehindwomen.ca]. The Mayne Island retreat was a true ‘back to nature’ experience which refreshed not only me but the participants as well.

More here! 

Sherrilene M. Collymore

The Human Quality Headquarters
www.hq-2.com
info@hq-2.com

In the outdoors; the further away from concrete buildings, the better... where my appearance is not of interest and I actually forget what I look like since my energies and focus are directed to climbing dexterously over the next hill; skirting a rock or tree stump; skipping a puddle with enthusiasm... doing my best not to miss the next excellent opportunity of nature to further expand my vision of life and confirm the abundance that is truly reality... I love to find my nature within nature.

God bless us. Sherri

Some of my opportunities of nature...

I sometimes feel like I am running away from the madness of this life, when I 'hit the streets' and go hiking or immerse myself in the bliss of spending time with my very uncomplicated animals, or similarly reflect on the memories of my loving, uninhibited life with my grandmother...

As time has gone on, I have accepted, bit by bit, that it isn't 'escape' I am doing; at least not of the form of evading responsibilities and the like. It is just my beautiful spirit which does not desire to be bogged down anymore in that moment, in inconsequential things and just wants to be free... yes, from the madness!

Indeed as time passes some more, I have been accepting as well, that my state of desiring escape is perfectly natural and normal... since I am perfectly formed, and everything I experience is good enough and right and no mistake whatsoever. It's just my experience and it's fine. So no more self 'beat-up' for desiring something different than what apparently people are pursuing...

I think it helps now that I am finding so many people just like me, who aren't satisfied with this kind of thing...like my beautiful friend Anges...

Here's her blog for today! http://ladiesoflight.gaia.com/blog/2009/5/in_what_areas_of_your_life_do_you_feel_youre_running

Great days to all!

Peace,
Sherrilene

I love the question, Siona! ;)

The description I would use is 'Together Me'...

Since I am so outward, in that I instinctively think in service terms, I rarely hold in my awareness all of the little things that make me, me and that serve me greatly. I feel scattered quite often.

Without attempting to live 'perfect', I would like to be 'in touch' with all of the different parts consistently and move through life 'with me'. [Don't know if this makes sense lol]

This in no way detracts from my potential power to serve. Indeed, something tells me that it makes it much simpler to organise my life and enjoy the service which I give better [and more].

I do enjoy service quite a bit; this could potentially lift it to an even higher level.

Achieving this togtherness would be what I aspire to in mature life.

Peace, Sherrilene

Well, just about everywhere actually.

The degree of superficiality that still pervades my interactions with people is quite distressing; it's like if a real discussion will scare some people to death!

Stepping around on egg shells has been a very exhausting habit I began developing from working in corporate especially... possibly a key reason that I left after feeling stressed out and unheard by my bosses!

There's still so much effort that's put into discussions about small, inconsequential things, that again I wonder who seriously would want to see change happen... or who just enjoys discussing, i.e. hearing their voice or seeing their own writing on a page!

My small global circle of colleagues who are willing to dig deep [in themselves] and put their energy into real work remains my inspiration to keep going, despite the very great numbers of politicians, champions of industry, diplomats and the like, who are frankly only very good at consuming the well needed resources for change and at digging us even deeper into our mess, maintaining clear benefit for them...

But still we press on in prayer for common sense to take hold...

To depth!

Sherrilene

I have always felt from a young woman, that your legacies, as in what you will be remembered for, are the type of citizens you leave behind you in the form of the children you bring into the world and raise up to adult stage.

As I moved deeper into the business and academic world trying to find a place, I gradually shed my ideas about children and spent a lot of time 'achieving' goals in the 'very best' ways... I was a good girl :)

As time has went on and I got frustrated with the returns from the System, which were basically more work without an end in sight and non-commensurate appreciation, I moved then to asking this very question to myself and came up with the answer, basically, that I'd be a singular example for use of my gifts to contribute to greater good. This was how my company, hq2 or the Human Quality Headquarters got started.



Today I'd have to say that hq2 is my key legacy, but it doesn't only speak to 'the business'; not in traditional terms. I want hq2 to be a reflection of what is good about enterprise; about creativity and innovation and networking and good relationships with people and the public and creation of goodwill [ = value]. Thus my intertwinings with so many people along the way also create the full and favourable legacy of hq2.

Since my gifts include a natural affinity to people, [in fact, to living creatures!], it  happens that through actualising this, the quantity of those [legacy droplet] relationships is substantial! Four years on and I can safely say that the value and goodwill of my business are solid and something I can be peaceful with.

So although I have not followed the path I had visualised in my youth, I think I have still fulfilled the broad legacy I'd predicted, through my company, by helping to shape peaceful and useful citizens for our world in general.

I still encourage every person to be aware of their potential to help the next wave of human existence by taking the next generation on as their responsibility and by sharing your knowledge and wisdom with them, for Our Greater Good.

I certainly will continue to do the same.



Blessings and peace to all people,

Sherrilene

Liked this, felt to share:



Peace, S

I love this guy!

And the song had particular meaning tonight.


Mother mother tell your children
That their time has just begun
I have suffered for my anger
There are wars that cant be won

Father father please believe me
I am laying down my guns
I am broken like an arrow
Forgive me
Forgive your wayward son

Everybody needs somebody to love
(mother, mother)
Everybody needs somebody to hate
(please believe me)
Everybodys bitching
cause they cant get enough
And its hard to hold on
When theres no one to lean on

Faith: you know youre gonna live thru the rain
Lord you got to keep the faith
Faith: dont let your love turn to hate
Right now we got to
Keep the faith
Keep the faith
Keep the faith
Lord we got to keep the faith

Tell me baby

when I hurt you
Do you keep it all inside
Do you tell me als forgiven
And just hide behind your pride

Everybody needs somebody to love
(mother, father)
Everybody needs somebody to hate
(please dont leave me)
Everybodys bleeding
cause the times are tough
Well its hard to be strong
When theres no one to dream on

Faith: you know youre gonna live thru the rain
Lord you got to keep the faith
Now you know is not too late
Oh you got to keep the faith
Faith: dont let your love turn to hate
Right now we got to
Keep the faith
Keep the faith
Keep the faith
Lord we got to keep the faith

Walking in the footsteps
Of societys lies
I dont like what I see no more
Sometimes I wish that I was blind
Sometimes I wait forever

To stand out in the rain
So no one sees me cryin
Trying to wash away the pain
Mother father

Theres things Ive done I cant erase
Every night we fall from grace

Its hard with the world in yours face
Trying to hold on, trying to hold on

Faith: you know youre gonna live thru the rain
Lord you got to keep the faith
Faith: dont let your love turn to hate
Right now we got to keep the faith
Faith: now its not too late
Try to hold on, trying to hold on
Keep the faith

Peace, Sherrilene

Other people's decisions for themselves.

Although I can see the destruction; although I can tell it will be unnecessarily painful... I would finally like to put peace for myself first, even if that means letting others go to God to take care of things.

Peace, Sherrilene

To not feed my addiction to the dramas of the 'real world', knowing that it is not one bit authentic and thus a waste of energy and my time.

I quite always end up frustrated and disappointed and feeling silly that I did anyway, which is not exactly a great Quality of Life choice, is it?

In relative comparison, my dipping into areas of growth or development is very enjoyable and lots of fun as well, since there's so much energy being created there, which in turn energises and inspires me... and I do like having energy at the end of my day!

This choice would mean concentrating on things like entrepreneurship, especially social enterprise, creative activities, children and education. In fact there is no shortage of wonderful developmental areas I am able to immerse in.

Seems like not much of a choice, huh...?

Peace,

Love, S

P.S. For any entrepreneurial enthusiasts, please consider joining the WES [World Entrepreneurial Summit] Society online and help carry forward the next wave of 'head and heart' enterprise development. The link is http://www.wessociety.com

It's time for that update to the change in my home life with the acquisition of yes, another dog!

I decided my Jonny should have a companion, especially since I might not be around all the time with travel, etc. I've always believed in teaching lessons in sharing as well [for humans too, of course!] So I brought home another pup from the Ark [see first blog on the Ark here: http://sherrilene.gaia.com/blog/2009/3/wonderful_visit_to_the_ark_animal_sanctuary ], a girl named Tinkerbell.



She had been originally offered to me, in fact. But Jonny had endeared himself to me so I took him home first; absolutely with no regrets. These two pups have been showing me things about life that I couldn't have gained very easily just by living with fellow humans!

For one, they are both victims of cruelty of one sort or the next; that if it was not directly perpetuated by humans, was certainly facilitated through neglect of full responsibility for their animals. The lessons I have been learning are about growth. Although at first fearful about humans and in Jonny's case vehicles [he was run over, I think as a young pup], both of these animals have been showing me what adaptation and acceptance are about.

In quick time they assessed their 'human' and have concluded they can trust me. And now they love me unhesitatingly. I don't detect any further fear of humans in them, and in fact Tinkerbell in particular is quite the charmer and loves to flirt with all sorts. Jonny is remaining the territory guard and sticks quite close to me for affection. He seems quite a wise and thinking soul [but that might be just me projecting lol]

The two are very different in personality: he laid-back and obedient; she a really excited, youthful spirit. [She is a bit younger than Jon-boy to be fair... that's his nickname, yes :) ] And they play-fight quite a bit... a bit rough. This used to concern me since I have an aversion to fights, but I observe it is just a different way that they 'live'. There's never residual hard feelings and in fact I often 'catch' them kissing each other when no-one's looking. :) She gives as good as she gets in these fights and is not at all intimidated by the fact that our Jonny is bigger, just a bit. She is really confident in her self and her ability to 'handle' situations. Such an observation...
 
Tinky [that's the other nickname I'm trying with... she hasn't quite grown into it yet] is aggressive with food; I assume it's her background, while Jonny gently sits and waits until I place his food there for him. Jonny, you'd say, has the more abundant personality. Sounds like any humans to you? lol

The two are not really 'matches made in heaven' but I see that they are learning to live comfortably with each other and with their mistress. There are moments of possessiveness [of me], on both parts. But I do my best to divide time with them in the ways that they like: Jonny likes to feel like he's done a great job chasing those pesky humans off the outskirts of the premises, most especially the postman with that noisy motorcycle! Tinky more would like to sit at my feet and, well, just be there. Of course this is just her little non-abundant spirit concluding it will give her first 'dibs' on food distribution.

She may grow out of it; she might not. I know some people never do, so it is possible she'll stay that way forever. Anyway, it doesn't matter. I sense her intentions are good for the most part and she does understand what limits are, so we're ok. :)

Together they do show me what letting go looks like: I swear they fall asleep within seconds of doing their duties [actually, just like me!]. Yet they remain alert to perform when they detect the need. I think fulfilling our purpose probably looks like that in a very natural setting without pretense.



Both my pups are low maintenance, thank goodness, but they are there for me as I need them. They sure do assist me in having peace of mind when I lie down at night. I am really lucky to have them!

I invite everyone to join me in signing the Animal Cruelty Petition for Barbados at this link: http://www.petitiononline.com/bbpcaa/petition.html and consider taking an active look at www.peta.org to see how you can contribute in at least a small way, to prevention and reduction of animal cruelty. Indeed I also hope that everyone will consider taking in an animal as well and enhancing your Quality of Life with the balance they have the power to bring with them. They are definitely still very much in tune with their Nature...!

Thank you for sharing my happy time with me.

Sincerely,

Sherrilene

I have been thinking about this quite a bit for a few days... A big part of the fear based mindset of those among us that are living in and operating in the capitalist system as we know it, is the sense that we need to gather things at the risk of running out. It has justified a great degree of short-term thinking, hoarding and divisions among people.

I am interested to know:

1. If you consider yourself an abundant thinker, confident that there is 'enough' to share around and with consideration and effort, we can in fact effect the rebalancing and proper distribution of wealth around the world
2. If you do, how did you come to that position? Experiences? Were you always of this mindset?
3. If you think that those persons who hold the alternate positions [scarcity mindsets] can be retrained, and why/why do you not think so?

If this is too complicated no problem, just answer as you see fit.

Thanks for your insights.

Blessings to you,

Sherrilene

'Clock time' is actually a distraction for me so I rarely register hours unless I have an appointment with someone. Thank goodness for alarms and the like...

I feel the greatest highs on any day when I take my break for meditation on gratitude; when I think about all I'm blessed with and how fortunate I am to have a fully functional body, a working brain which keeps me resilient and hopeful that so much that is being neglected by our world's leaders is going to change... because said leaders are proving themselves to be useless to the emerging populations...

I have committed to taking time out for meditation anytime that I feel in any way rushed or conflicted, so that I may stay in touch with the true reality of abundance, and keep the cult of negativity from depositing nonsense in my system.

And if it takes 15 minutes or 1.5 hours or 1.5 days, so be it.

Namasté


Sherrilene

Just found this great article on Yahoo!
Although we like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn't so. Personally, I've had moments where I'll be skipping through my day, happy as can be, thinking life is grand and BAM, I'll be blindsided by someone who manages to knock the happy wind out of my sails. Sometimes it is easy to write it off and other times, not so much.

Maybe you are a positive person, but when you are around a certain individual, you feel negative. Or, maybe you have an idealistic view of the world and when you are with certain people, you are made to feel silly, unrealistic or delusional. Or, maybe you pride yourself in being completely independent and in control of your life, but when you are around a certain family member, you regress into a state of childhood.

Some of these situations, and yes, these people, can have a tremendously negative impact on our lives. And, although we are all human and have our 'issues,' some 'issues' are quite frankly, toxic. They are toxic to our happiness. They are toxic to our mental outlook. They are toxic to our self-esteem. And they are toxic to our lives. They can suck the life out of us and even shorten our lifespan.

Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them:

1. Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.

* Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.

2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."

* Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.

3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.

* Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.

4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.

* Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.

5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.

* Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.

6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.

* Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.

7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.

* Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.

8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.

* Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.

All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.

Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending mucho time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier. Have you encountered these personalities? What have you done? Any personalities you would add?

Please follow this link:

http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/lang/eng/michelle_obama.html

Peace, Sherrilene

Your Month Ahead

Saturday, 30 May 2009

We still live in tense times but they're not as tense or as troubled as they were. In June, they get easier. Venus meets Mars. Jupiter changes direction. We all start to see new ways to solve problems relating to prosperity (or the lack of it) - and in the process we unleash creative energy. Expect exciting ideas to crop up, in conversation, on the news... and in your own life. And if it has been some while since you last felt a sense of romantic adventure... you can look forward soon, to rediscovering some of the magic that life always has when it is at its most enjoyable.

Jonathan Cainer

www.cainer.com

My friend Mary Rives [maryrives.gaia.com] and her husband Keith have a lovely establishment named Laugher Incorporated and knowing my friend Mary, it is surely a fantastic place to go and just let it all out!

There, they feature Laughter Yoga, a concept that I am certain must be the solution to many of the world's problems in itself!

Well, given that I haven't yet had the opportunity to visit Mary and Keith and have a great session with them, I have been doing my own home yoga sessions and enjoying them immensely. It used to be strictly for the exercise benefits, the quiet mind outcomes etc.

Well, the benefits have just gone up even more, with the addition of my dogs to the mix, and the accompanying laughter!

You see, the dogs don't quite 'get' why their human is down there on the ground with them unless she must be coming to roll around with them! And so they insist on joining in and doing the stretches, ideally across me and under me, but not quite ever at their end of the carpet! When I'm too far out of reach, they just fill the time doing dog play things under my feet, nibbling at my toes etc.

What was most funny was their insistence on licking the perspiration off my forehead and neck and then lying prostrate at the end when I was in my resting pose, as if they were cooling down as well!

I have to admit, it was nice to realise that I could concentrate quite satisfactorily despite their obvious interference [which is something I couldn't say I have mastered in the presence of some humans]. I don't have the desire to banish the dogs to the outdoors for any of my regular activities because they do bring such clean energy to my home, so it was very pleasant that they gave me a good laugh as well. That made it quite worthwhile - indeed value added! - to have them stick around.

I actually think the activity wore them out. They got 'knocked out' promptly and fell asleep on the carpet almost immediately after I was done.

Never underestimate the energy expended from a yoga session!

Wishing everyone a great day! I know mine has been started on a fantastic note!

Best, always,

Namasté

Sherrilene